Just before you give up

Posted On November 28, 2006 | Written by Emmanuel Oluwatosin

Tola just finished his NYSC from one of the choicest cities. He served with one of the multi-nationals but the company did not offer him employment after his youth service corps. Reasons? Nobody really knows. So many of his mates that are not even as qualified as him were able to secure employment they finish their Youth Service.

He continues to apply to every advert that comes his way even when it seems that the job offers are completely different from his field. He desperately needs a breakthrough. He feels that all he needs is to at least get a job which can offset his daily expenses. The more he applies the more it seems to him that he may never get any job as he is fast approaching the age limit set by most of the companies. At a point, he concluded that nobody can get a job in this country unless he has a god father – uncle, aunts etc – who can help him out.

Tola believes that his peers that have been able to secure job after their Youth Corps are either lucky or know someone who helped them out. Since he definitely does not know anybody who could help him, he then feels he must be unlucky or someone somewhere is working against him. This makes him to develop a negative attitude towards himself thereby believing that the other applicants were probably better, more qualified than him or know people who were able to influence things for them.

Luck however smiled on Tola one day, he thought, as he was invited for a test. He passed the test and was scheduled for an interview. His mind was filled with negative thoughts even as he was preparing for the interview. He was almost sure he would not be able to get the job. He discovered on the day of the interview that the shirt he planned to wear had some staines which he did not envisage, and the only alternative needed ironing. As it was already too late, he went out with a wrinkled shirt.

During the interview he was tense, his negative attitude showed up, as he conscious of his shirt. He was distracted and it made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall behavior made a bad impression, and consequently he materialized his fear and did not get the job.

Segun, on the other hand, applied for the same job too, but approached the matter in a different way. He had no doubt about his ability to get the job. In the evening before the interview, he prepared the clothes he was going to wear, and went to sleep a little earlier. On day of the interview, he woke up earlier than usual which made him arrive at the interview centre early. He got the job.

What makes the difference? Is there any magic employed here? No, it is all natural. The difference is attitude. When the attitude is positive you entertain pleasant feelings and constructive images, and see in your mind’s eye what you really want to happen. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy and happiness. The whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even the health is affected in a beneficial way. You walk tall and the voice is more powerful. Your body language shows the way you feel inside.

2 Responses

  1. I have always believed that your attitude and your altitude are inseparably linked. Apart from that a man attracts his most dominant thoughts.

    Those things which are uppermost in your mind which you think about the most, will surely find you.

    Job said, “the thing which I feared the most has come upon me”.

    If you don’t believe in yourself, it shows through and makes it really hard for anyone else to believe in you.

  2. Your expertise can help you to get the altitude but you need the right attitude to maintain that altitude. Even if things are not going on as planned, a right attitude can turn things around. Let’s just keep working on developing a positive attitude about life.

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